Are there times you really WANT to masturbate, but just can't get turned on enough to do it?

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Yes, so far I've masturbated five times today and can't get myself to be aroused. Today I'm going for seven or eight ejaculations but can only muster five.

Oh yeah,loads! sometimes everyone's asleep or no one's home, the situation can be perfect! Of course I'm just not that turned on when the timing's right! I do try to have a go when the timing's right, but, quoting Dr Kelso (Sorry I love Scrubs!) "you can't time sex"

yes, me and my cousin toss off infront of each other and sometimes give each other a hand. The first time we started doing this we used to do it under the covers and I couldnt get hard. I did eventually after 10 mins of trying. Now I have no problems lol think I was just nervous.

Sure, there are times that I feel like masturbating but don't "need" to. It all goes back to judging a want versus a need. I think most men get wrapped up in their "want" to masturbate, rather than a "need" to masturbate. It amazes me how many men will say they "need" to when it's really more about them just "wanting" to.

Heck no! If I wanna masturbate than I will!

It usually occurs when I am bothered with something. I feel like masturbating would get my mind off the problem for a while but it just doesn't work. Either I am too tired or I know I have not enough time or privacy for it. It is even worse when I am not alone at home. My family seems completely unaware of what I am doing in my bedroom with the door locked, so they can't figure out why I refuse to let them in when they come and knock. Fortunately (and strangely, too), they give in to the most trivial excuses. That is the reason why I often masturbate at night, while everybody is sleeping. Sure I have to be quiet, but masturbating at night rather spices up the session as I know I will eventually get turned on by the idea of releasing all that lingering frustration.

It mostly happens really late at night. I'm really horny, but also really tired. I try a few times, but I usually can't keep it up. I end up falling asleep and wake up EXTREMELY horny in the morning.

There are times when I can't get turned on enough, but after watching a fair amount of porn, I will always end up doing it.

Of course! It'll happen to me 10 minutes after I masturbate, and it's really frustrating!!

Not usually, normally I can whip it out and I'm ready

No, I'm very creative, I can just get my self going on pure imagination, it dosent take much to get me super Horny, I have boners pretty much all the time, lol

yes

The hardest time for me to masturbate is when I'm sick. I can try for 10 minutes & not get hard. Male 41 Maine

Yes. I'm a teen and when you think of us always horny that is somewhat true, but not always!

Yes. Like yesterday I really wanted to masturbate but laid down and just couldn't get myself to get up. I finally got it though, it just takes a lot longer.

Yes. Like yesterday I really wanted to masturbate but laid down and just couldn't get myself to get up. I finally got it though, it just takes a lot longer.

Very rarely, only when my mind is on other things and I've been doing it a lot for the previous few days. But other than that, it's always ready to go.

all the time

Never

all the time

Yes. Usually when this happens I play with my penis thinking about my girlfriend but sometimes it just doesnt work. I usually end up masturbating every night because it helps me sleep, if I have an erection it ends up being quite a task to get to sleep so masturbating is the only way and sometimes I find I can keep rubbing but no orgasm

If I really wanted to Masterbate I would do it really hasent been a time when I couldent.

Yes.

When I really WANT TO...nothing can stop me !

no. my barefeet really turn me on so I'll just put my flip flops on and look at my toes or I'll lay down and put my feet up in the air and look at the bottom of my feet and toes in a mirror to get turned on. it works every time.

No whenever I'm turned on I'm horny :/

No, that's never been a problem for me. If I want to masturbate, I can get hard within seconds. Once I decide to jerk off, I block everything else out so I'm not thinking about other things in my life that could cause me to get distracted. The problem for me is being horny at times when I don't have the time for a masturbation session, such as before work in the mornings. In this case, I might not be as aroused because I'm worrying about being late for work and so the orgasm won't be as pleasurable, but I can still get it up and cum.

No! If I want to do it, then I can...

As we all know, masturbation is near breathing on the list of things we must do to survive. Most of us masturbate to relieve sexual tension, but most times we just do it because the amazing feeling it provides. At times, I really want to masturbate, but I'm just not able to get turned on. When this happens, I just play around with my penis until it is erect. I sometimes fantasize or use the rosy palm technique to spark up my fluids. Watching porn also does help get me going. Another way of getting excited is reading the biographies here on this site. If all else fails, I just sit there and try my hardest to become aroused.

No, I always can do it. I just start and that gets me going. A little porn will help too sometimes.

yes

If I work a long shift, when I come home, I'll eventually go to a porn site. Even if I'm watching a good video, and I want to rub one out, I'm just too tired to really get into it.

I never have trouble starting a session, but sometimes I have problems finishing and I have to stop without ejaculating. A common time for this is if I have masturbated a lot recently, and due to privacy concerns, I then try to masturbate standing up in the shower instead of lying down in bed the way I prefer. If I can't finish right away in the shower I start thinking about how my family must be wondering why I am in the shower so long and then I can feel my penis kind of loose interest and I have to stop.

If I have been working late and am tired, I may feel horny but not have the energy to jack myself.

sometimes late at night when everyone is asleep but I am too tierd

Yeah I hate that

Yeah, sometimes I feel like having a good wank but it's impossible : I just can't find the good thing to think about, so I give up. If I go on, it becomes a pain instead of a pleasure, so I prefer to stop and waiting for a better moment, when my brain and my penis are in good terms.

Yes, I always ave done it in the washrooms. The private cubical. And I'll wait til no ones around. :P

Most of the time when I'm at home by myself, I get naked but just can't get horny enough to do it.

I have never had that. If I need a wank I'll have one. If I'm not turned on but want one I'll do it regardless. The orgasm tends to be less intense though. :(

Yes amost every time I see a really hot girl in magazines I don't think I can actually get a erection unless I force myself or watch porn and forcing myself takes way too long

Not yet but I love those slimy feelings with bananas
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No if I have the need to do then I go away and jrk off.

Yes, definitely. When you’re a little stressed and just want to release the tension. Visual stimulation usually does the job!

Ya one time I masturbated 30 minutes and could not ejuclate stoped hand started to hurt

Yes...one time I was so sick with the flu, and I was stuck in bed for 3 days...on the third day when I started to feel better, I wanted to JO sooo bad, but could not muster the energy....But when I did come on the 4th day it was wirth the wait

LOL! Both answers are shaming

yep

Hell yea and it sucks!

Yes. I usually just keep going until I get into it. Sometimes I have to look at porn or just walk around the house naked for a while. Usually, I just have to play with my nipples for a while, and then I feel the need to give my clit a good rub-down. Often, if I'm totally stuck but I really want to cum, I'll open all of the windows in the house, climb into the kitchen sink, and use the spray nozzle and some warm water to get off.

no. horny 24/7. a matter of fact I'm jacking off as I'm typing this response.. jack off almost once daily and sometimes 2-3 times on week-ends. Happy Jerking !!!!!

There are times when the *idea* of masturbating is incredibly appealing, but I'm simply not that horny. Often I've masturbated anyway, wanting it to feel as good as it should, but when I finish I think, "That really wasn't worth it." This happens sometimes if I'm up really late and I'm exhausted but I still want to get my bedtime "tug" in there.

One time, in grade 9, my best friend and I got into a huge fight. It got so bad that we wouldn't even talk for weeks on end. It was at this point I started to feel sad and scared about losing my friend. So for awhile, I couldn't bring myself to masturbate just out of sadness and worry. But we're all good now haha.

During the week, my mind is cluttered with work stuff. I will be at home attempting to masturbate, and then I will suddenly start thinking of something I should have done or need to do at work. My brain tries to sabotage me at times, also. I am gay....100% equivocally attracted to men. Unfortunately, I work with many women on my job. Many times when I've tried to masturbate, some of the women I've spoken to that day insist on floating across my mind and ruining my experience.

No if I really want to jack off I just look up some porn or something then there is NO way you can stop me from jackin off.

Yes

Definitly! Usually its straight after I masturbate normally and I still have a slight urge to do it, but I cannot no matter what..

A lot of times right after I cum I'll still be super horny but I just can't get horny enough to actually get it up again. Or, if I can get it up I just keep going at it forever and it just doesn't happen. Still feels good though.

Yes. When I don't have time or am too tired to wank is when I want to. So, I wait and then when I try to get off I can't get hard to save my life. It gets a bit frustrating after a while.

yes it happens to me every now and again, I usually have to look at porn for it to happen!

All the time

ALL the time. I actually wanted to masturbate a second ago, but then I saw this question and got totally turned off...

Yes, because sometimes I hear my family members outside my bathroom talking (because I usually do it before I shower), and it's just too distracting. Sometimes I can turn the radio on in the bathroom, which helps.

yes

sometimes. usually when I'm going at it for a few minutes and then my parents go by or they call me. after they do that, I obviously have to stop, and then from that point on its just hard getting going again, no pun intended

I got really sick one time, and after the pain went away, I still had to rest. A couple of times I really wanted to go at it, however, the meds I was taking seemed to take any sexual energy out of me. After I stopped taking the meds I was back at it, and was relieved. Those couple of weeks sucked.

YES!

Oh yes.. Like sommetimes when I am home alone and I have just jerked when I get out off the bathroom and mom and dad are like "I'm going out and when they leave I put some porn on and I can't get it up :( age 14 canada

yeah somtimes when I have masturbated within 2 hours of the next sesson it takes a while for me to get an erection

Ya, sometimes I get a chance when nobody is home, but I can't! It's so frustrating.

Not really; if I want to I probably already have an erection.

That happens?

I don't think so. I mean, if I really want to masturbate, I'm gonna be turned on. That's why I want to masturbate, because I 'm turned on. But I guess I just masturbate for the heck of it, and I can't always manage to think about stuff that's gonna be good enough. I still do it, of course, but it's not very satisfying. Compared to what it's usually like. But that's only when I'm jerking off because it's kind of a routine. By routine I mean I usually do it once a day, whenever, wherever. Some of those routine times are great, but not all of them. So I guess my final answer is no, when I really want to masturbate, I get turned on enough to do it.

some times when I am looking at xxx videos

Yes, but I can get a mood on if I really want to, i perfer to do it when I have a mood though.

That rarely has happened to me because I can always get an erection when I want to jack off. On the rare occasion when it has happened, just getting a hot gay story off the internet or watching some porn will fix me right up. I do have an active imagination and fantasy life and can conjure up some hot sex in my mind which will also get me turned on.

Haha yea it happens all the time, don't feel your alone with this.

There have been times when I have been drunk that I have wanted to masturbate but just couldn't.

It has happened, usually late at night when sleepy and I just can't be bothered. It would would mean getting some privacy and making an excuse to my wife.

Not really. Sometimes, when bored, I try to do it, but I just can't muster up the energy. You know it's bad when you're so lazy you can't even have a wank.

Yep, usually a little playing around with my ass does the trick though!

When Im sick, or if I can hear my parents talking...

The only time I can't get turned on enough is right after I've just masturbated.

no, I always can get it up, and get myself off. actually, there was one time when my grandmother died that I couldnt do it for two days.

I find that the world in general is less arousing (meaning I don't masturbate nearly enough as I would like to - and that's frustrating!) if I indulge in pornography too much. So I like to take regular breaks from it and stick to my imagination for a while.

This happens to me all the time after I've had an orgasm. It felt so good... so I want to do it again, but it's just not happening. I have to wait half an hour to be able to fully masturbate again. This is probably the worst thing that ever occurs masturbation wise.

I usually just go to a porn site and it's easy after that...

Yeah, sometimes its really frustrating and I just can't seem to get horny. Usually if this happens I do tend to watch some porn, and it helps me right along.

That has happened to me only a few times. For a while I tried to masturbate daily regardless of how I was feeling -- I was hoping to keep 'the equipment' in good working order. Most of the time I had no trouble once I started, but those very few times NOTHING could get me going.

of courese not, when I jack off it'e usually because I have a raging boner allready! Plus I have a verry vivd imagination.;)

Yes

yeah all of the time, you just want to but can't think of anything to get you going if you know what I mean.

Unfortunately, yes

Yes. Mostly it's because I have masturbated earlier that day, it drives me crazy sometimes.

yes, alot of the time

Oh yea, definitely. It doesn;t happen very often but maybe once or twice every other week. It just doesn't wanna happen and it doesn't happen, lol.

Sometimes, I'll be home alone for several hours, and have plans made for a good session, but I just won't feel in the mood and waste the time doing something else. And of course, I always regret it later!

nah, if I want to masturbate bad, I'm hard already

Not that I can recall. the only time I want to is when I'm in the mood...

yes

Yes. Mastubating daily has been a way to achieve sexual release. However, sometimes, I just cannot find the time and a private spot.

Yes but normally it's after I masturbated a couple times already. Once is never enough in one day sometimes but it's hard to keep it going at times

yes, but the only way to get turned on is to keep on going

yeah... like when I dont feel like arousing myself with just my hand, but don't want the mess of lube afterwards either.

There are times when it takes me 30 minutes, there are times when it takes me 2 minutes. But, I never stop until I jack off. When I can't get turned on enough then I watch PBS Kids for 10 minutes, then go back. I have changed from being a good little boy watching Barney to watching Hentai about Barney- it usually works. LOL.

Yes I have. It really sucks. Sometimes at night I really want to jack off, but no matter what I do, start to stroke, rub, think of different situations I've come up with, but nothing will get me going. That's when morning wood can be a good thing.

No. When I really want to masturbate I do. I can't think of a time that I couldn't get turned on enough because I am usualy preaty horny.

Yes but not often. If it takes too long and my arm starts to tire then I might stop. Sometimes it's kind of good though because the next day I blow a huge load!

No usually if I want to do it I'm pretty horny although there are times when I am really horny but I can't jack off for other reasons

yes

yea. I really wanna cum but my penis has a different mind

Definately, but seems like I am just too tired to crank one out. It only makes it better the next time around.

Not really, If I want to masturbate I can easily force myself into getting an erection even if I'm not horny.

no, if I really WANT to jerk it, I can do it no problem

Not really. There have been times, particularly if I've masturbated two or three times in the past 24 hours, where getting and keeping an erection can be a bit of a chore, and the eventual orgasm usually isn't worth the trouble. But I like to finish what I start, and there has never been a time in memory where I haven't finished.

Yeah totally

yes

Yes! And it gets quite annoying. I have recently started school so needless to say its some times hard to get turned on when I just feel like I want to feel something good.

No.

no. I just picture somthing that turns me on. or I start masturbating without being turned on and I become turned on.

Strangely enough, that condition seems to happen only when considerable period has passed since my previous masturbatory session. The desire is there, but my penis doesn't respond as well as it does when only a few days have passed. Perhaps it's an illustration of the saying, "It has a mind of its own." In this case, it doesn't seem to be on the same wavelength as I am.

During my first week of college I just could not get turned on. I was really in the mood to jerk off, but even porn didn't help. I figured getting comfortable in my new settings helped. After a while I sort of forced myself to jerk off and I had one of the best orgasms I've had to date. It was totally worth the down time when I couldn't get it up.

Never. Im horney 85% of the day so I can masturbate anytime I want.

Sometimes in the shower this happens to me, but when I'm not in the shower and have access to a computer then no problem.

YES, it sucks, I mean I really want to masturbate, but I guess I'm sometimes to lazy to think of something to get turned on

To put it simply: I always "want" to masturbate, but unless I'm horny enough, I can't get a full enough erection to do the deed. That's a long way of saying "no". :-)
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