Masturbation frequency, urges, and cultural mores.
I'm 17. Recently I went a few days without masturbating, and to my surprise I found myself notably more attracted to girls.
I suddenly found myself staring at girls I'd never noticed before, as if I were in love. Did my abstaining from masturbation lead to this at all?
Probably. If you're used to ejaculating regularly, going without can really mess with your head. The results can vary; in your case it seems to have been rather pleasant, but others report almost a temporary insanity, when you're liable to do things and think things you definitely wouldn't otherwise. For those people, we at JackinWorld recommend regular masturbation for peace of mind!
When I reflect on orgasms that were especially satisfying, it always seems to be those in which I could clearly feel the progression of the semen all the way through my penis and could distinctly feel each spurt as it came out.
This sensation seems essential to a truly satisfying ejaculation. Is there any way to help make this a part of every ejaculation, or is it the luck of the draw?
For 22 years I had no sexual release except through masturbation.
(I'm a 3-a-day man, but when I was in high school it was more like 6 – I blame tight school skirts.) I finally landed a girlfriend, and shortly thereafter we started having sex. I quickly discovered that I am almost completely unable to ejaculate during intercourse. I can manage it only by holding my breath and restricting myself to strokes that are similar in nature to masturbation. I think I know why: In the last few years I've been applying more and more pressure to my penis while masturbating.
I have been masturbating for a year and a half now and do it about once a day. I masturbate in our bathroom with the door locked.
I usually take 15 or 20 minutes to finish, and then I usually wait 5 more minutes for my erection to go away. My problem is that my parents think I am really going to the bathroom and that I am not feeling well, since it takes so long. I'm afraid they may bring it up at a doctor appointment. How can I can speed up the process and make my erection go away sooner?
Is it a good idea to masturbate to relieve sexual frustration, or to use my frustration to actively seek a partner?
I get the impression that relationships are about more than sex anyway, and that leaping into relationships may prove disastrous given the amount of commitment required. Also, if masturbation does curb the desire to actively seek someone, does this necessarily mean that I will be less able to find a mate later on in life?
The only time I get a chance to masturbate is at night, usually sometime after midnight.
But my parents still occasionally get up in the middle of the night, sometimes when I'm masturbating, and it's really aggravating to get hardly any privacy. I locked the door once, and at about 2 am my mom tried to open it and asked what I was doing. I said I was changing. (At 2 in the morning! It was a really lame response.) It messes up my concentration, and I can't get the pleasure I seek when someone tries to come into my room.
When I ejaculate, I don't think I have an orgasm. Can this even happen?
The nature of orgasm differs from person to person. For some people an orgasm can be tremendously powerful; for others it can be mild or even virtually nonexistent. It can also change over time. The descriptions on JackinWorld about how an orgasm feels are just how most people experience them; it's by no means an absolute. That's about all I can tell you.
When you go in for a physical, can the doctor tell you have been masturbating?
Well, if you have a wilting erection and your hand is covered with semen, yes, I think he could tell. If you mean you masturbated before you got to the waiting room, no, he probably couldn't. But what difference does it make? He knows most males masturbate frequently.
I've been masturbating for 2 1/2 years now, about once or twice every week.
I've noticed that my orgasm never reaches the same amount of pleasure as it did when I first started. I still masturbate because it's still somewhat pleasurable, but not as much as I'd like. Once I actually felt nothing but the semen shooting out. Is there anything I can do to reach the high pleasure level I once got?
- age 16, Canada
I'm a 16-year-old male. I feel the urge to masturbate only about once a week, sometimes less often than that.
Also, I need to look at erotic pictures for around a half-hour before I even get an erection. I never get erections spontaneously, or even when looking at girls. Is this unusual? I have been on vacation for 3 weeks now and have had to relieve myself only once. It's very annoying!
The amount of sex drive a person has varies greatly from individual to individual, a variance that's completely normal. Everyone is different, and it's this diversity that makes the human race so interesting and complex.
