I am in my late 50s. In my family sex was a topic not discussed. Neither of my parents ever told or asked me anything about sex or masturbation. Therefore, all my early masturbation experiences were as though I was the only one who had ever done it.
My earliest memory of a "sexual" experience comes from a time at my grandmother's house when the daughter of my grandmother's cook took me behind the garage and showed me her genitals. She told me that if I rubbed my "pee-pee" it would feel good. I don't remember any more about this incident. I was probably about 5 years old.
My next memories of sexual play are of bathing with my two younger sisters. We regularly bathed together until I was 10 or 11. I remember getting erections as we bathed. My sisters, especially the youngest, would pull at their labia trying to achieve an erection. (In retrospect they were probably doing the pulling because it felt good.) Quite often, after our bath, my youngest sister and I would go into her room and closely examine each other's genitals. She encouraged me to pull her clitoris to make it stick out like my penis. (At the time, I didn't know any of the names for the parts and certainly had no idea what they were for.)
During my pre-teen and early teen years I engaged in regular mutual masturbation with a male cousin. My cousin and I spent the night together almost every weekend. Our mutual masturbation would begin as a massage and continue until we were stroking each other's penis. We never masturbated to orgasm with each other. At this time of my life I had yet to have an orgasm, and I'm pretty sure my cousin hadn't either. (An interesting note: My cousin was uncircumcised I and was circumcised. Neither of us knew at the time why we were different.)
My first orgasm happened quite unexpectedly when I was in the 7th grade. By then, masturbating had become a regular habit. I would get an erection just thinking about taking a shower or spending the night with my cousin. (Believe it or not, I had not yet learned even the rudiments of sex.) One evening while showering I began to rub my penis between my legs by bending over, pushing my penis between my thighs, and then standing upright. I don't remember how long I continued this movement, but I do remember the intense feeling that came as my penis began to jerk and ejaculate. I had no idea what was happening, but I knew it felt like no other feeling I had ever experienced. Soon I began to experiment with other methods of stimulating my penis to orgasm -- and thus began my practice of daily masturbation, which has continued until the present.
One might assume that when I became sexually active with females and, especially, after I married, that masturbation would cease or diminish in frequency. In my case this was not true for at least three reasons. First, I enjoy masturbation and use it as a supplement to my sex life. Second, during my younger years, I ejaculated very quickly during sexual intercourse. I discovered that I could greatly prolong intercourse and satisfy my wife if I masturbated regularly. I usually masturbated about an hour before bedtime just in case we had sex.
I don't know whether to call this next practice "masturbation" or "an alternative sex practice," but for this bio I'll consider it masturbation. Birth-control pills were not widely used during the early years of our marriage, and those that were available had much higher hormone doses than more modern pills. My wife could not tolerate the side effects of the pill, so after two children in three years we began to use mutual masturbation as a primary method of sex. My wife would often lie on her back, knees up to her chest, genitals exposed. I would kneel in front of her and penetrate her with my fingers while rubbing her clitoris with my thumb. At the same time, I would masturbate with my other hand. Usually, she orgasmed first, and I would continue to masturbate until I ejaculated on her belly. After our third child my wife had a tubal ligation, so birth control was no longer an issue. However, as my career advanced and my wife became more and more involved in raising children and running her daycare center, our frequency of sex diminished. Once a week became the norm.
My daily masturbation continued. Pornography became an important stimulus as I grew older. As often as possible, I read pornographic books and magazines or attended XXX movies. Now that we have retired, sex is more frequent and masturbation less so. However, I still masturbate several times a week. Because of age and the looseness of my wife's vagina, I often have to masturbate to orgasm during sex. She is very understanding and participates fully in my efforts.
Do you find yourself masturbating more often during some seasons than others? Why?
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