I'm not sure exactly how old I was when I first started masturbating -- either 11 or 12 -- but I know I was curious about my body, other people's bodies, and sexuality from a very young age. At age 7 I remember lying in bed, pulling down my pants, and holding up my erection to look at it. There was no stroking, no sexual feelings at all -- just curiosity and amazement. At the same age, I became fascinated with the female body, having seen some female nudity in movies with the help of my older brother, and wanted to know what they had in their pants. Still, it wasn't until I was older -- after I had seen countless magazine pictures of nude women and (through reading and talking with my friends) had a working knowledge of how sex worked -- that I discovered the great sensations that came from fondling and stroking my penis. There were many times when I would rub and stroke myself, "dry-hump" my bed, or just look at my body and my erection in the bathroom mirror, but I never came close to orgasm. Of course, I wasn't frustrated with this, since I had no idea what an orgasm felt like. I was just content with the feelings I did create when I touched myself.
You Never Forget Your First... After school one day, in the hours I had to myself before my brother and sister came home (they had activities after school), I began playing. At this point I hadn't developed a full-grip stroke. Instead I would form a ring with my index finger and thumb and, varying the pressure, move that up and down my penis. Sometimes I would wet my fingers with water to make things slick, but this lubrication wouldn't last long. After I would stroke for a while, I would lie face-down on my bed and rub my penis up and down on the comforter. On this particular day, it felt so good to dry-hump that I didn't want to stop. I paused only briefly a couple of times to look at my penis -- mostly from the fear that I may be causing irreparable harm -- and noticed the upper half was much more red than I had ever seen. I went on because the feeling was so good. Then, I began to feel a tickling feeling at the tip of my penis. It was followed by a tightening in all of my lower regions and a sudden and great urge to pee. I instantly jumped off the bed and ran to the bathroom. I stood over the toilet expecting to urinate, but my penis just pulsated and bobbed up and down. It was very red in color and sensitive to the touch, but it felt wonderful. The need to pee was still with me, and I could feel something slowly flowing through my penis. Then, as my penis continued to pulsate, a drop of semen fell from the tip. It didn't shoot out or even flow like urine, but rather squeezed its way out. One drip, then another -- then nothing. In the weeks to follow, I began masturbating more frequently and began releasing semen in greater quantities. I started laying out Kleenex under my belly and would continue to dry-hump right through my orgasm, shooting my semen onto the tissue. I used this technique for years, although I eventually moved from the bed to the rug on the floor (a thick shag that was very soft and seemed to envelope my penis), until a lack of privacy and space forced me to further develop my grip method.
My Grip Method. I started out, as I mentioned before, with a "ring" grip. I soon moved to the full-grip method but without a tight hold -- I would allow my penis to slide back and forth through my dry hand, "tickling" the sensitive parts as my palm and fingers moved past. The orgasms were good, but I would get sore and the skin on my penis would dry out. Eventually I tightened my grip and would masturbate by moving the skin back and forth, bunching it up under the ridge of the head and then pulling it down again. This was my method of choice through my college years. Once or twice in high school and occasionally in college (once with a girlfriend helping), I used Vaseline as a lube. Although I enjoyed my tight-grip method, using the lube was another level entirely. In fact, it often brought on my orgasms so quickly I almost couldn't enjoy them. But the real drawback was the mess. When you have a roommate and most of your sessions take place in the bathroom, you can't spend a lot of time in there. So the Vaseline -- though enjoyed immensely -- was seldom used, and the tight-grip method continued. Of course, I did eventually discover...
The Wonders of Saliva. This brings me to my current, and most enjoyed, method of masturbation. Saliva is a wonderful lube, without the mess, cost, or quantity limits of synthetic lubes. And you never have to hide a bottle! A dime-size drop creates a slick, silky feeling, and when it mixes with "pre-cum," it's unmatchable. Once my hand is wet I like to use a "Backhand" method, almost simulating a mouth (or vagina) on my penis as I slide it between my thumb and index finger and all the way down until I have a full grip. When I get close to orgasm, for the most part, I re-lube my hand with saliva and switch to the regular grip. In this position, from years of practice, my hand knows exactly the tightness, rhythm, and "buttons" to push to bring on an intense orgasm. The only thing I've added in the last couple of years is what I call "rubbing the male clitoris." Before I even engage in full-grip stroking, I like to stimulate that very sensitive spot on the underside of the penis where the head and shaft meet. With my index and middle fingers, I rub "pre-cum" down from the tip of my penis to the spot, place my thumb on the backside just under the head, and rub circles over the key area -- much the way a woman rubs her clitoris. It creates that aching feeling where it feels good it almost hurts. A couple of times I almost brought on orgasm just through this kind of stimulation, but I always stop because I believe I can get total and complete release (which I consider the best type of orgasm) only through full-grip stroking.
Finally... I've been masturbating for more then 20 years, and rarely in all that time have I ever grown tired of it. Even through relationships where sex was plentiful, I continued to find time with and for myself. Now I'm married, and although I don't do it as frequently, masturbating every once in a while is a comfortable and enjoyable release. To boot, masturbating with my wife is phenomenal! One of the things that makes my sessions so great now is having more time and privacy. Buildup makes for greater intensity. Whereas as a teen I'd spend no more than 10 to 20 minutes (sometimes even less), now I take hours. Occasionally I'll spend an entire day watching videos, looking at pictures, and reading erotica before I ever touch myself. When I finally do, I stimulate my "male clit," try different strokes, let myself go soft and then bring back my erection, and bring myself close to orgasm and then let it subside. And I have fantastically explosive orgasms and large ejaculations. It's amazing, and I'll never refrain from pleasuring myself when I feel the desire. I believe everybody needs to take time to pamper themselves and make themselves feel good. Only you know what you like and what can take you to the greatest of heights.
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