I have a girlfriend, and we have normal intercourse. But often when I'm alone I feel like masturbating and just do it.

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I have a girlfriend, and we have normal intercourse. But often when I'm alone I feel like masturbating and just do it.

Sometimes I think this is unfair towards her. Do other boys who have girlfriends still masturbate? Or should this stop if you have intercourse?
- age 20, Switzerland

It's very common for males to masturbate when they're in a couple – even older married men. This is something not too many women understand. But the best possible thing would be to get her to understand that while you enjoy having sex with her, masturbation fills a need you can't get from sex. Then, hopefully, she'll let you do it in peace, and you'll feel better.