But my parents still occasionally get up in the middle of the night, sometimes when I'm masturbating, and it's really aggravating to get hardly any privacy. I locked the door once, and at about 2 am my mom tried to open it and asked what I was doing. I said I was changing. (At 2 in the morning! It was a really lame response.) It messes up my concentration, and I can't get the pleasure I seek when someone tries to come into my room.
You didn't mention your age, but anyone who's at least 13 or 14 is entitled to privacy in his or her own bedroom. My guess is your parents – especially your mother – do not particularly want you growing up as fast as you are, and they're in a bit of denial that your sexuality is developing. They may subconsciously want you to remain their "innocent little boy" forever, and denying you privacy is their way – inappropriate as it may be – of making sure you're still their little boy.
I would talk to your father about the privacy issue. You don't have to say anything specific; just explain you think you're too old to have to be checked on in the middle of the night, and that it's making you unhappy. And make an agreement that they'll knock before entering your room, just as you'll knock before entering theirs (which they probably already have you do). This subtly implies there's a sexual element to your concerns – and if your dad masturbated at all as a teen (which he very likely did), he'll understand and grant your wishes.
Do you find yourself masturbating more often during some seasons than others? Why?
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