You seem to disregard this on the grounds that feelings of guilt are caused by either hormonal imbalances or a dogmatic upbringing. My personal objection to masturbation is that it is both highly compulsive and completely unproductive. When I masturbate, I am always left with the overwhelming feeling that I have just wasted a significant portion of time doing something very silly. This isn't hormones, this is a sober mind. I am never any better for masturbating. My mind is the same, I am emotionally identical, and my body is basically the same. This makes masturbation far less valuable than listening to music, reading literature, engaging in sports, or doing any other kind of recreation you'd care to mention. What bothers me most of all is that I feel like I have lost control of myself; it's such a mindless, self-indulgent act. There are so many more important things to worry about, and I find it upsetting that people are devoting such considerable time to this cause when there are more worthy ones.
I am trying to stop myself from masturbating, but when JackinWorld ridicules such attempts as being futile and silly, you make me feel like I'm a freak for wanting to stop. As well as breaking the current stigma against masturbation, do you not think you are creating a stigma against people who don't want to masturbate?
You make some good points. However, does masturbation not simply feel good? Isn't pleasure alone a reason to engage in a harmless activity, as is the case with enjoying a good meal? Eating doesn't make you a particularly better person. How is masturbation a less worthy way to spend a half hour than, say, playing a video game, or watching the World Series?
You mention that after masturbating, you have a sober mind. I would argue that if you masturbated because you were horny, then your mind wasn't exactly sober before you masturbated. It was preoccupied with sexual thoughts and feelings. And while some people are able to channel those energies into creative activities, for most of us, they only get in the way. Sometimes sexual urges can make a person go a little crazy and do irrational things. Masturbation only sobers you up!
There's nothing wrong with wanting to stop masturbating. A few people do succeed, but most fail, and in doing so, they blame themselves for having "lost control." My point is, why bother? Why this urgent need for absolute control over your personal universe? What's the harm in letting go every once in a while, whether that be a couple of times a day, or once a week?
As for your last thought (and it is an insightful one), maybe JackinWorld is creating a new stigma. But compared to the one we're fighting, there's no contest. It's a little like saying students shouldn't be educated about the history of racial injustice in the U.S., because it makes white people look bad. Regardless of whether that's true or not, I think most folks would agree that people are better off knowing, rather than not knowing, what minorities have gone through in this country.
And they're better off masturbating!
Do you find yourself masturbating more often during some seasons than others? Why?
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