MASTURBATION (MAS-ter-BAY-shun)
Is one of the delights of human existence. Unfortunately, masturbation is not always thought of or mentioned in positive terms, and sometimes it's difficult for people to get good information about masturbation and how to get the most out of it. That's why we put together JackinHow-To – to give beginners a guide to the joys of self-pleasure.
For females, masturbation consists of rubbing the genital region and/or stimulating the clitoris, which is a small organ a lot like a tiny penis. Like men, women can experience orgasm as a result of masturbation or intercourse. JackinWorld's focus is on male masturbation; check out Jill Diddler.
A Natural Lube
As you get further into your masturbation session and start to get a little more excited, some fluid (technically "Cowper's gland secretion" but commonly called "pre-cum") might ooze out of the end of your penis. It's often whitish, slippery, and perhaps a little bubbly due to all of the action going on from your hand. Some guys can actually get enough of this fluid flowing to use it for lubrication. However, a large proportion of males go their whole lives without ever producing the stuff.
What should I be doing with the other hand?
If you're right-handed, the classic thing to do with your left hand while masturbating is to hold or rub your scrotum (SCROH-tum), the bag of skin under your penis containing the testicles (TES-ti-culls, commonly called "balls" or "nuts"). It's also fun to let your hand go roving over your body, as you find new places to stimulate or tickle while giving yourself pleasure.
How fast should I go? How tightly should I grip?
As fast and as tight as you want! Everyone is different – some like to go slowly, and some like to go very fast; some like it loose, and some like it tight. You might decide you like to start out slow and loose and then speed up and squeeze tight, or you might do just the opposite.
But I can't ejaculate!
If you already know how to masturbate, you might think nobody needs to be told how to do it – but we're amazed how many guys have trouble. They read JackinHow-To, they proceed to masturbate for 15 or 20 minutes, and then they get bored and give up. If this is you, you're doing it wrong! Turn off the TV or the Playstation – sometimes, masturbation demands your full attention if you want to go "all the way" with it. (And as anyone who's ejaculated will tell you, it's the only way to go.)
The Buildup
As you masturbate, the feelings of pleasure will start to intensify. Go with it – but if you want to get the most from your session, don't let things happen too fast. In order to prolong the pleasure, you might want to stop for a minute now and then to give your penis (and your arm) a rest. Besides being fun, this is actually a good exercise for later: You will be a better sex partner if you can delay your ejaculation to maximize your partner's pleasure, and time it so you reach orgasm at the right moment.
The Ejaculation
If you're doing it right, the act of rubbing your penis naturally makes you more and more excited, like a runaway train speeding down a hill. As you think a particularly sexy thought, you will begin to get a hot feeling inside your pelvis, which will increase in intensity. It may feel like you're about to urinate – but don't worry, that's just the feeling of semen beginning to enter your urethra (the tube that runs through your penis).
Afterward
As you're lying there with wet semen on your stomach, the next step is to wipe it up. Just grab a Kleenex or a piece of toilet paper. (Depending on how much you ejaculated, you might need between several feet of toilet paper.) It's a lot easier to flush a Kleenex rather than to use a towel or T-shirt, which will need to get washed and may be noticed by someone in the mean time (which can be embarrassing, obviously). If you're so inclined, you can also eat your semen.