I remember having sexual feelings and getting erections as a young boy. I watched animals copulating on the farm and was normally curious about sex. My first sex-play experience happened when I was 9 or 10. A guy my age from school stayed overnight and we shared the same bed in my room. He started talking about his penis and pulled down his pajamas to show me how it was bent to one side and how he wanted to straighten it. He wanted to see mine to compare, so I took it out. It seemed smaller, though average, and I was curious about his, too. After touching each other's penises we both got erections, but we were too young then to masturbate to orgasm.
A few years later my schoolmates would often joke about getting "boners" and masturbating. It was pleasurable to think bout sexy things and rub my erection before going to sleep, but I must have been 14 before I had my first ejaculation. I recall how exciting it was to have that intense feeling in my penis, then rising up from my groin and testicles followed by the semen spurting out, the white sticky stuff I had heard others describe. After that, I began masturbating more or less daily, usually in bed at night, though sometimes several other times a day in the bathroom at school or home. I wasn't sure what to do about the sperm flood at first, and I worried that my mom would notice crusty stains on my bedclothes or Jockey shorts. But soon I started taking a Kleenex or wad of toilet paper to bed, and I still often use that for cleanup. In the bathroom at home I liked that I could masturbate leaning over the sink. It was also stimulating to watch in the mirror as my fist went up and down on my penis and the semen shot out.
During high school and university there were a few times when I compared penises with other guys while showering after sports. But it never went beyond that. Sex with women involved fellatio but never masturbation. Generally masturbating has remained a solitary private enjoyment, except for a couple of memorable incidents about which I still occasionally fantasize. The first happened while I was traveling alone on an overnight bus trip in Latin America. I became friendly with a seatmate, which led to talking about our girlfriends back home. That got us both hot and hard. Soon he said he just had to relieve his erection and suggested that we masturbate each other under this blanket he had. Another time occurred when I was watching a porn video late one night with a housemate. I was about to go up and masturbate in my room when he suddenly unzipped, took out his erect penis, and said I should join him.
While I enjoy reading about a variety of masturbating techniques, I tend to stick to a few familiar and reliable ones. I rarely use any lubricating lotion — only when a bout of more frequent masturbation may have made my penis a bit sore or I need to stroke harder and longer to reach orgasm. Sometimes I like to rub my erection while wearing tight-fitting shorts or swimming trunks. Occasionally I also masturbate with a condom on. Sometimes, if I am masturbating while viewing sexy material on the Internet and cannot hold off, I ejaculate into my hand. But normally I like to be able to watch myself while lying down, and to build up to a better climax using the "Stop & go" technique. Currently I am single, so that is easier to arrange than when I have been in relationships.
My preferred masturbation method is to be nude on my back in bed propped up against several pillows and with a side mirror positioned so I can at any time watch myself fondling my penis and testicles. I have a collection of sex books and magazines handy. Often I take a fairly stiff elastic band and put this over my testicles and erect penis, both so they stand out more and to make it easier to gently massage my testicles with one hand while masturbating my penis with the other. Besides the standard pumping action I like to use long strokes on the underside with my left-hand palm. When I'm ready and feel myself getting close, I'm usually fisting my circumcised penis as rapidly as possible just below the head. I love to see the semen jet out. Usually I have put some tissues on my abdomen, so cleanup is easy. If it's a strong orgasm I'll be breathing hard, groaning, and my legs will be twitching quite a lot.
Even after decades of steady masturbation, there's nothing like it! I don't masturbate as much as in my teens obviously, and rarely more than once in 24 hours. But my erections (about 7 inches) are still as hard as ever, and with an average of 3 to 4 times per week, there's no reduction in semen volume, either. As I have moved toward middle age I have been keeping a record of the number of times I masturbate and hope to maintain a good frequency. I consider it part of sexual health as well as enjoyment of one's body.
Do you find yourself masturbating more often during some seasons than others? Why?
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