I asked my boyfriend to stop masturbating because it seriously damages my self-esteem – he often does it after seeing a sexy commercial or TV show. He does get other sexual action, like me masturbating him and oral sex, but I don't know how to prove if he is still masturbating.
We'll give you the answer then – yes, he is still masturbating, only now in secret. Guaranteed. We're not exactly counselors, but your self-esteem issues probably go deeper than your boyfriend's personal masturbation habits. In other words, you should not rely on controlling him in your pursuit of peace of mind, or blaming your unhappiness on his private behavior. He will masturbate, no matter what you say. If you get on him enough about it, he'll start to resent it, if he doesn't already. In any case, it could definitely spell an end to your relationship. Think about how that would affect your self-esteem. Our advice is to let him do what he wants in private, and work on building your self-esteem in other ways.
What do you think about when you masturbate or have sex? Would you tell your significant other if they asked?
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Is it possible for a 15-year-old boy not to masturbate?
